I'll try to make this brief and to the point.

I started dating someone new earlier this year.

Before that I had gotten kicked out and forced to move across the country after my girlfriend I had been with and lived with and helped raise two kids for six years kicked me out.

With my new girlfriend I have to admit I seemed to have "cold feet' so to speak, but the relationship progressed.

Recently I let the "L" word slip out during a conversation...

The next day her life was kinda thrown in the air when a disagreement between her and her family left her without a lot of her rightful property and her and her two kids without a home.
(She cannot live with me as I was forced to move back home due to having health issues and the incident last summer when I was kicked out)

We had mused about moving to another city out west from me, but now she is doing it quick so she can feel stable.

I was asked about going and after a sorting of emotions I know I would feel very sad to be far away from her...but I would by lying to say I am not a little scared and wary of such another major move.

But I did say I am going and the alternative seems to really be a place of hurt and isolation and I think she might be one of the few ppl that understand some of thew ways that I can be...

I know my new girl is 100% NOT my ex and way more humble and trustworthy.

Which leads me to the bit that is REALLY driving me nuts tonight.

When I was with my ex, she pretty much cured me of a really bad and potentially damaging jealousy issue.
For the next six years I was not like I was before that I gave her my complete trust.

I think when we broke up that was broken due to how I was treated after the breakup but before I moved back North.

But now my new girl is being helped by an older male gentleman as she is in crisis (and I met the guy and think hes a good guy) and (I feel dumb writing this) I am jealous and have all kinds of scenarios going through my head.

I had a bout of jealousy also when she was around her ex, which she has to be as she has kids.

She knows about my jealousy as I have tried to be brutally honest in this new relationship and she thinks its natural after all I went through with my ex and losing the kids

So here are my issues:

1.) How can I stop the jealousy? Why did it come back and how do I kick that old hag out as I hate her and know that she kills all manners of relationships!

2.) I think all of the "history repeating" is freaking the living dog @#$% out of me! But I also feel I have nothing to lose by moving out of state again... as I hate this area and would rather live and try then stay and be unhappy and always wondering what if that was my one good shot at a decent person without all the bs?

3.) I think my old realtionship did me a few doozys and brought back some really old negative habits, like jealousy and all of it's dumb fantasy scenarios and worry,
How do I identify what is going on with me?

I need a clear head to figure this all out, both for my sake, her sakle and everyone's sake.

I think I am worrying more about all this then she might be.

My emotions have been running rampant and all of this is making me ill to a degree, which is odd as I never did anything like this before...honestly I also think some part of my brain is trying to deflect being in 'love'.

I last really slept the night of the fourth and it is now the early morning of the eighth....since then I have slept a total of five hours and that was broken...

(I have sleep issues and anxiety and a history of low self esteem and depression by the way plus other non relevant physical conditions )

Simply put, besides the stress of her situation, which I am sure lays a factor, I just want this:

and not this: ....nor this:

Please give me some advice guys or at least talk to me as I have very little friends to bounce things off of and talk things out with.

Thanks!