Ahh... that's what he says now. Its the way I ask. But I always ask nicely first, and he ignores it. I don't think I should have to baby someone or be on tippy-toes when in reality, I shouldn't have to ask in the first place, and it shouldn't be an issue. He's a grown man. Yesterday for example, we had friends over for a BBQ and I was tidying up before they arrived. So I asked him to move his rubbish off the sofa, nicely 2 times. Then on the 3rd nice time he moved it - and simply placed it on the floor. So yes, I did come over as stern when I asked him to please put the stuff away properly but that's the 4th time I mentioned it. I admit, I do not have the patience of a saint, but really, 4 times?

I also like the schedule, but I do it all and he knows this. I will do a schedule when I get more work as am not working full time at the moment. This isn't the source of resentment on my behalf, it really is just the rubbish he leaves which sadly can be at any time of the day. He tells me once he's put something down he doesn't 'see' it anymore and it just stays there. Forever. I have endless excuses from him why he doesn't do things anymore. I say there is no excuse, it's just lack of effort. I am not the tidiest, but even I know that a coke can, an snotty tissue, a sweet wrapper, a oily takeaway wrapper etc goes in the bin and not the sofa.

Anyway, thankyou for taking the time out to write, I really appreciate yours and everyone's replies.