Hmm, not sure why this post fell to the bottom of the pile.

I think you need to try and build a life outside of this person. I actually don't think it's healthy to let relationships define us - i don't think you do have anything to worry about, it takes some time for other's to say they love their partner back. This seems to scare a lot of people but i would rather someone said it to me at the right time then lie and create a false sense of security for me. She's going away for a month so i can understand her wanting to tie up some lose ends and she's right to want to spend as much time with her friends before she leaves. To be honest it just sounds like she's trying to balance everything in her life equally and that can be very hard. As for yourself i simply think you're afraid of yet another crappy relationship and you have every right to be - they're damaging for our self esteem and make us lose faith in the concept of relationships. I think you're doing the right thing by opting for therapy - it shows you're responsible enough not to let this issue cause the break down of a good thing and i think if you stay dedicated to the process things should work out ok. In the meantime focus on you - meet with friends, try and make new ones - simply enjoy spending time on what you love doing. I hope things improve for you and i'm sure everyone here will be around to listen and support you in whatever happens next.