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Originally Posted by bowooden
I'm trying so hard to keep in this marriage and I'm having the "me and my daughter would be happier without her" thoughts. I'm starting to notice other girls again and I know where that road leads for me because it took me there once before. My wife is so angry and mean and says that I don't understand her and shuts me out when she needs me most. She gets mad at me when she believes I get hit on or if another girl even talks to me. I know she may be depressed but how do I handle it and stay in this marriage. I stay away from all women now because they say things like "you deserve better" and I just don't like hearing it. I'm tired all the time and can't even keep a job anymore because I always quit. I get stressed and then fall asleep a lot when my wife is home and I don't know why. I'm too young to have these problems and I feel like the life is being sucked out of me.
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I interpreted the part in bold to be that you had an affair. My apologies. What about family therapy or even couple's therapy? I think if you can try and take the focus off her solely being the one to need help she might be a bit more flexible. Ultimately though we can't make people see what we see, they have to want to get better for themselves and if that just isn't the case then i would sit down with her and explain calmly but firmly that you can't deal with the way things are much longer. It isn't good for the both of you to keep on living this life so maybe now is the time to be decisive and change things if YOU want them to change. People here will be around to support you whatever it is you decide to do. Good luck.