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Originally Posted by bowooden
I agree with you. It is not a positive thing to discuss my issues with the opposite sex and has only lead to more confusion for myself. I have distance myself from talking to women about my relationship due to past issues and that’s including my 4 sisters and my mom this time that’s why I'm here. Most of my male friends don't offer the best advice but they do try and I listen up to a certain point. When I got married I never thought divorce to be an option, it's just when you run out of all the options where do you go? How can you tell if someone loves you or they just love the thought of having a family and being in love? I'm not a materialistic person but I have not received a birthday gift a Christmas gift a father’s day gift ever. I have poured all my energy into making her happy that I've lost all my relationships with the outside world. I know some of this sounds stupid but if she is showing her love for me, how?
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I do understand. I in sorts have the same issue. I am a type A personality my wife Type B. I am the initiator in our relationship. I discovered that she was having an affair with a guy that she works with for over a year. my life was devastated by the act. My wife and I both worked in the ministry for many years, home-schooled, and appeared to be the poster board family. When I learned of her affair and confronted her with it she made ever excuse for it, even to the point of making it out to be my fault. Owning up to only the physical aspect. I often question her fidelity in our marriage due to factors as no gifts, no initiation in sex, no hugs, I love you's or any act that says I care. She says that it's just the way she is no big deal. It's hard to read my friend or to be stuck in the middle of confusion. I too find myself at this place often. My wife still works with this guy and they see each other daily, says there is no communication between them but gets mad at accountability. I know it a tough decision to make but I believe your a lot like myself in saying that if you knew what tomorrow would bring then walking today would be easier......