I have developed outlets and friendships as well as just carrying on when he seems to be absent or I feel pain from his reaction or lack or reaction to me. I know some other folks do this, and it's different from everyone. He usually seems a bit bettter when he takes a break, socializes with a friend, works on a project he enjoys, etc. I've also lowered my expectations to some degree, because too, I love him, and think that he is going thru stuff himself.