wow , don't know what to say to that bowooden. Just know I recently asked my hub if he is miserable why is he with me, and he said I dont know. Guess I could interpret that sev ways, but he didnt want to pursue further. Sounds like your wife does, too. Seriously, all expectations aside, are there any small things she does for your marriage? Search your mind! Sometimes I've done this, come up with zilch, othertimes some real stuff, however small. The best, buddy!