Thanks hamster, for your posts! I know that our parents can influence us with our habits - but his parents are very tidy. And when he visits his Pop, he cleans up after himself unprompted - even wipes off every last water drop from the sink after he washes up! So he's been bought up a clean boy. When I say this to him, he just says 'well, it's what they do, so I respect their way of cleaning'. Ha!

I like the idea of a housekeeper, but it will start another row but I will say it anyway! I don't mind doing more than my fair share with every day chores because he has a reasonably long day , but only at the moment while I have the time. I just object to his laziness of things like coke cans & wrappers. He's a slob at home. I used to clean up those bits too and only pick my moments to raise it (when it started to get to me) but now I just refuse. I am considering collecting his rubbish over a week and just shoving it on top of his stereo. That may get the message over.... mind you, I left everything he left on the sofa for a fortnight, and he didn't notice, despite it piled up high.

I don't mind a bit of mess, I am not a show-room type of person, I liked a lived-in house, but I do object to not being able to sit down on the sofa because too much rubbish and there's no room or it's sticky with coke!