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Originally Posted by BobKatt
I will be joining a therapy group on July 17th. This has been planned for six weeks. I have been waiting for one member of the group to "graduate" before I can join. My therapist just told me on Saturday that there will be one other new member joining with me on the same day.
This was news to me. I thought "oh great now I will be overshadowed by someone else on my first day."
i did not say anything to T. I feel that he should know me well enough by now (3 years) to know that I have a major problems a) feeling like I am part of a group and b) feeling comfortable talking and "taking up space".
Do I have the right to ask that I join the group alone that night? Or am I being silly?
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I'll apologize right off the bat because I expect someone will find this to be offensive.
It sounds like you're saying two different things.
1. That you have a hard time feeling like you belong
2. Are upset that everyone won't be focussed on just you.
I would have thought that having someone else who is also new to the group would help you feel more comfortable because you're not alone in your new adventure - someone else will be new too.
Group therapy isn't about one individual being more important than the rest. It's either about learning skills and sharing how you've used those skills (DBT) or everyone sharing personal experiences and listening to other peoples experiences.
Maybe I'm just reading your post with the wrong "tone" in my mind, but it sounds like you're pouting because you won't be the centre of attention.
Again, I apologize if I'm off base.