What? You want us to defend ourselves??? Isn't that the
exact reason why we struggle with conflict?
According to CBT pioneer David Burns (I have a copy of his book), if you do defend yourself in an argument,
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You'll be off to the races in a pointless, frustrating battle.
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And I kind of agree with him. To argue is to
show how (insert negative word here) you are to the other person.