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Old Jul 08, 2013, 04:12 PM
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Originally Posted by bowooden View Post
How about it she can't even tell you why she loves you? My wife states that I'm better with words than she is so it's hard for her to say it.
I took this quotation of out context, so my reaction might be off; apologies.

What exactly do you want from her? Do you want her to rationalize her loving you? If so, why? Love is a very complex emotion, and not everybody who feels it can provide a list of bullet points explaining why they feel it. Also, to the extent that we all seem to be on a quest for Un-condition-al love, the fact that she loves you without being able to provide a list of bullet points is actually reassuring rather than alarming.

Again, apologies if I lost your point by taking this bit out of context.

ETA: that seems to be the problem:

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Originally Posted by bowooden View Post
I know some of this sounds stupid but if she is showing her love for me, how?[/FONT][/COLOR]
she is not SHOWING her love for you (not necessarily verbally, and, given your example with the absence of gifts (and no, you do not to be materialistic to expect gifts - gifts do have a symbolic meaning as well, which transcends the word of material objects), you need non-verbal signs)... you miss signs of love and not rationalization of love.

Also... since there are no signs of love, maybe there is no love (?), and then there is nothing to rationalize.