Now....before I begin my husband has never given me a reason to mistrust him, as he has never cheated on me. But I have something in my head that believes he is going to violate our vows. Let me start by saying he is a very sweet, sarcastic and friendly man in general. Rarely is he ever truly mean or brutal with people unless they are close family such as myself and our parents. He recieved a text message a month before our wedding from a woman he was sexually involved with a year or two before we met. The text included a few pictures of this girl in a few dresses and she was asking him his opinion of the dresses. She say that she asked so she could make sure she looked appropriate for the wedding. He proceeded to tell her that she looks good in just about anything and that if she had anymore that she wanted an opinion on to FEEL FREE TO SHOW HIM!!! They just seem over the line flirtatious at least in my head thats how i see it. He claims that they quit seeing eachother because they are better off just friends and they were always "better" at being just friends, therefore she is one of his "best friends". Keep in mind we live nearly two states away from this woman (whom is now engaged and had her fiances baby). Now he is going back for a big National event for his hobby about 2 hours away from his hometown, which naturally he wants to stay with his parents 4 days before this event even begins. I am not sure if he is going THAT early just to fullfill some sort of void of feeling like he's "still got it" in a case where they would spend time together, maybe go on a date or if he is going to legitamately spend time with his parents. But this jealousy eats at me almost constantly. I have my good days and bad days to say the least. Please help me. How do i know if this is what he is trying to pursue? Like i said he claims to be "totally anti-cheating" but the way he talks to this girl sometimes makes me feel like there are feelings still there but i have no way of knowing since when i bring it up he says "Im with YOU not her" I dont want to ruin my marriage because of these possibly irrational feelings. I feel like something must be wrong with me.
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