Okay, i'm a little confused about certain details. Are you living with your bf? Is he expecting you to babysit? I dont understand why he isnt taking ten days off work and spending them with the child himself. He should be focusing on him, not distracting himself with you. That or he should be focusing on your health issues. But you plus kiddo is number 3 at least on my list of priorities. What is his control issue with the ten days? Seems like a line in the sand.