My T initiated this topic a few weeks ago. We had just resolved our first rupture, and she decided to tell me about a few moments from our sessions that stood out to her.

(1) She mentioned the time she came to sit next to me when I was crying, put her arm around me, and comforted me.

(2) She mentioned the time I gave her a letter in which I told her how being in therapy had helped me. In particular, I wrote about how working through my maternal transference with her helped me overcome my maternal void. (3) She mentioned the time when I told her about negative comments my dad and my ex-gf made about me being in therapy. They tried to tell me that my T must just be "putting up with me," and how it was so hard for me to directly ask my T: "Well, is that true?" T looked at me and said "Are you really asking me that? Of course not! I care about you so much and I really like working with you. We have a close relationship and they just don't understand it."

Hearing my T mention these moments really warmed my heart. They served as a really beautiful way of saying "we worked through our rupture and our relationship is stronger because of it." I heart my T

If I had to pick 3 moments, I would have chosen the same three.