Thanks everyone. Of course you are all right I asked about contact and she said yes! I feel like I blew it all out of proportion now. But I feel better!

Tiger girl:
Thanks, I will be in hospital. That is a good point about it being better for me to call her. In fact after my last surgery she offered to make a full telephone appt at a fixed time but I said no because I didn't know what would be going on. Anywaŷ, I have arranged that either I will call her or I will text and she will call back, on Friday. Double-nice of her as she is not working that day. I'm glad speaking to your T made a difference to you; it feels like such a big thing to me and I feel sure it will help me too to have a little contact with her and to know that she knows what is going on.

Surgery is on Thursday afternoon CEST, if anyone wants to come along for the ride