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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
Question for my couch peeps....
I'm trying to make some sense about how I feel about the one group member who is not attending group because T is not there. When I think about the reasons why I am still going (aside from my normal reasons) even though I feel similar discomfort, I come up with:
- Wanting to help the group process, since I've been there for 4 years and have a strong knowledge of how the process works;
- Wanting to protect group members, in case there's some sort of derailment since T is not there to help navigate.
So, knowing that this group member (who started the same day I did) is choosing not to attend because of his discomfort, does it make sense that I feel abandoned? I'm not sure that's the right word for it, but it might fit.
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Ill take a stab at it....
You seem to have a sense of duty to the group as a senior member and therefore you are feeling as though the other senior member is kind of leaving the load on your shoulders. Perhaps that person is just a little more selfish as they feel no responsibility to the group as whole? But ultimately its not your job either, if you want to continue to go don't do it out of a sense of responsibility... do it because you want to.