Stopdog, you kind of sound like my T. Very wily of you. I say this because I parented my parents as a child and I'm having to learn how to STOP doing this. I need to let go of the idea that all of my 'assistance' makes me somehow superior. It doesn't. It just makes me really stressed and tired.

You're generally the first one to jump in and defend the (perceived) underdog. Doesn't that go against your stance that we should leave other capable adults to handle their own lives?