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Originally Posted by granite1
what?? what is going on with you stop??
i do not think most people come here to be left alone. i would guess some do and can say i am posting but want to be left alone. it just seems a lot has got under your skin.maybe not i dont know .this is why i am asking .hope things are ok with you
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Just acknowledging that my responses do reflect my general approach to life and that it does involve nihilism. Reading posts on psych central, I find a lot of hurt, misunderstanding, feeling unappreciated and so forth comes, in my opinion, from not focussing on oneself but rather from trying to take on responsibility that is not the actor's to do, and expecting others to be appreciative, or notice, or change in some fashion or to have some effect on others that, in my opinion, is unrealistic and destined to lead to hurt and messiness.
This is just my belief and certainly not everyone agrees with me. For all I know, no one else agrees with me. And I am not talking about any specific here. Just a general sense.
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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
I agree that most adults should be permitted to do as they like, as long as they are not hurting anyone else. If however, they post or ask publicly for input, I do not feel like I need to simply agree with them just to be supportive. Further, if innocent people, particularly children are being hurt or are in danger, I'm going to say something. Not that this is all that relevant to MUE's thing.
I thought she was just expressing and working through her feelings and not trying to dictate or control the other person's actions.
Stop, there just ARE some things that are wrong. Period. Pretending like they are not in the name of respecting someone's autonomy is really not helpful in the long run, in my opinion. From what I have seen locally it leads to dead children or children in jail for killing their mother's abuser.
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My response was not because I thought MUE was trying to control or dictate to others but rather as supporting the idea that adults can choose self care without that choice being selfish.
And I disagree with the other part of your post. I understand that is what you believe and I simply believe differently. I don't really expect either of us to change our positions. I really am fairly nihilistic and certainly a relativist. I definitely do not agree with telling others what is right and wrong for them in how they live, but again - I think we know this about each other and our positions. Also, children are not my soft spot. I don't particularly want harm to befall children, and it does not make me happy if it does, but it does not set me off either. I have different soft spots than children as my area of sensitivity.