And this could be taken harshly except that a client in transference can see the t as a parental figure on whom her life depends (I was just talking to t about this today) and maybe the reason it doesnt matter so much to the t is that - like a dentist - it hurts us a whole lot more than it hurts them. But I think they would see it more as a cost of doing business, not that it doesn't matter to them.