I'm not sure what your tough love speech was about, but whatever it was, the way to get through it is different for each of us. Can you say more about what changes she is talking about?

For me, it's hearing over and over again how therapy is about me, not her, and how she's not my friend or my mother, and how I can't hold her hand anymore, shouldn't email, and how I need to live my life. Hard for me to digest all that. It's tough love for me.

How I'm getting through it. First I cry a lot, then I realize that my T is right, and then I make plans that have nothing to do with therapy. I take one day at a time, and focus on that, not the future. Then I cry some more, but a little less this time.

Change is hard, so baby steps are important.