I totally agree Perna! Since I posted that, a lot has happened, and we have had many heart to heart conversations about what she expects, I expect, and how I can fully express to her how i'm feeling without repercussions.

It's like night and day with my ex! I think i'll be good if I do do the exact opposite thing my ex would have wanted.

Since i'm higher up in the company, in more of a niche position, she has chosen to be the one to quit. She will be able to find a job with roughly the same pay with no trouble, and she frankly doesn't want to work for someone who would act the way our boss has acted.

We were planning on moving in together much later, but instead of splitting us up, my boss has moved the plan forward, and we have moved in together. Too soon? I can certainly see how some would think so. I personally would give advice to anyone asking me that it is too soon, so I completely understand.

Our kids get along great, we are able to communicate and are truly happy together, and it just seems weird to me to put an artificial brake simply for a time issue...especially since i've known her for over a year now.

In any case, i'll have to see how I handle working here after she leaves. I may just have to show one of our competitors how we've gone from 10th largest to the largest company in our industry in the 5 years i've worked here, where we were languishing for the 20 years the company has been around before. Okay, that's pride and spite talking, disregard.