That happened to me! What I told my therapist was a bit different, but she forgot too.

A few weeks after my confession I tried to tell her that I couldn't get over the shame of what I told her before. I wanted her help to get over the shame. But - instead - she didn't have a clue what I was talking about! That put me in the awful position of not knowing whether to go through the pain of telling her a second time so that we could continue the conversation, or to just let her continue not knowing. I wanted to 'undo' what I said before. Her forgetting accomplishes that, right?

Unfortunately, it triggered many months of not feeling safe, which was something we had been working on for a long time. How could I be safe with someone who didn't remember something as big as that? Plus, whether she remembered it or not, her internal reaction was to pull away and put up barriers between us. If she didn't know what happened, how could I know that it wouldn't happen again the next time I was vulnerable with her?

The rupture continued for two years until she finally could say to me, 'I know what happened, and I'm working on it in supervision and my own therapy.'

I encourage you to keep talking about it until you are heard and you feel ok about it all. Not being heard, supported, and understood in something so big is a valid topic for therapy.

Turtle