Mastadon- I don't know what reply you are referring to so I cannot address it or explain it further. Did I write something in response to your posting or to some other poster? If you would like a more full explanation from me, pm me. I confess I cannot fully grasp how what one person writes to another person can then hurt a third person who just reads it. I can understand how the third person could be angry at the idea, or amused, or bewildered or think the responder an *** and such. And I am in no way saying you were not hurt, just that it is not fully understandable to me if it was to something I wrote responding to someone else. Not that it needs to be understandable by me either.
But I am not talking about posting on pc and getting upset by replies on here (although I suppose I would take the same general approach except I do find I think some replies on here are mean and bullying - just perhaps not the same ones as you do. And whether it matters or not what I find is up for grabs). But here I was referring to what people were doing in their real lives and not on this forum. I am not saying it is always the addressees fault or they choose to get hurt, but I really do think a lot of hurt could be avoided if people took care of themselves more and other people less. Others do not always want the "care" or tough love or whatever thrust upon them and often it seems to me, the person doing all of the alleged caring is left feeling hurt or resentful or upset at ingratitude etc. because the recipient of the caring does not then act in a certain way, or others just in general do not act how one might want in response to any number of things designed by the actor to be generous, giving, helpful etc. and instead of trying to change the ungrateful, I think it is is simpler, more direct, and more likely to succeed if one stops focussing on them and starts focussing more on oneself. But if someone has a different experience or belief, then okay with me.
I have not been talking about any particular person or post. I agree with Wikid that I am a moral nihilist. And I don't fully understand why this position is upsetting to others.