thanks so much Petunia and Mandy. Gosh, I don't know about the diagnosis. We've always joked that he by himself has ADD and depression, but together, we are bipolar and ADHD (he's such a mellow guy, and I am extremely high-energy, ie manic and hyper)

he went to the ADD coach this morning and she agrees that we're in an emergency situation. She got him to sign couple of releases letting me talk to practicioners, and our psychiatrist friend put a call in to one of his psychiatrist friends, nudging us in for an emergency appointment. I left the new guy a voicemail but am waiting to hear back.