nobody ever explained me how it works and i have learned nothing with experience. feeling so dumb, ugh.

can anyone relate or suggest what makes a kiss enjoyable?
the pleasure you get, is it only a psychological thing or should it be physical too?[/quote]

I'm married and I STILL have no idea what I am doing, which makes the whole experience even worse because I am feeling so self-conscious. The only time I have ever truly enjoyed it was when I felt completely safe and valued, not just a body (unfortunately, this was not with my husband). I have found that it's hard to enjoy something when I feel like it's an obligation, as if it's a part of my job as a woman. AWFUL.

Are there other signs of affection that you do enjoy? If kissing, especially french (ugh, gross) is the only time when you feel squeamish and uncomfortable, it might be because you haven't found someone that you truly respect who also respects you, love (although, I find love to be a very abstract concept to pin down and label), etc. If it is all kinds of affection, there might be a deeper issue at hand.

I have no idea, that's just kind of what I am thinking. Like I said before, you are not alone.