I've just realised that I'm finding this word really triggering for shame. I have been speaking with someone about my family and they used this word to describe my mum. The thing is that I know that there's been this in my family dynamics, but I'm just realising that this can be an extremely stigmatising word or label. I think that it can dehumanise a person.

The thing is that I have used this word myself in the past, although not lots, but when someone said it about my mum to be honest it made me think about myself as a mum being as dysfunctional too and I felt it affecting my self-belief and ability to change and my self-worth.