Good grief you poor thing

What concerns me most out of all you've written is that he isn't even going to great lengths to hide it - how can he possibly be texting other women whilst you and your son are in the same room?!?! Not only does it show a complete lack of respect it's also quite aggressive behaviour. He thinks he can have it all and nothing in his perfect world will change. He sounds like a narcissist to me. At least you have your wonderful son so for the meantime you fortunately have the best distraction you could hope for but i wouldn't let this issue fester too long - not now there's another life involved. What worries me though is that from what you've written he sounds very defensive about the whole issue so even if he agrees to something like counselling, whether he'll be able to commit long term and build on any success he has is another matter. To be honest the whole thing sounds too far gone - he even told other people he wasn't married! I think you would be better off getting up and outta there. You deserve more than to sit there and be downtrodden by totally selfish and irresponsible behaviour. Keep posting here if you find it supportive and comforting - we'll all be here to listen no matter what happens. I hope everything works out the best for both you and your family.