SIL did send a thank you for the gift, and I sent birth announcement, holiday cards, etc. to all family. SIL has a son now, and we sent son gift to welcome his arriva....again, thank you card, but they have made no effort to allow us to even skype with him (we gave up after a couple of months of trying). SIL and family recently moved across the country, but haven't told us (we heard about it from the grapevine). The problem is family makes minimal effort with us, but we get blamed if we don't go out of our way to cater to everyone's wishes. We are all very polite, according to the accepted standards of politeness, except for when they are yelling at me or my husband because we do not want to be doormats for anyone anymore.