I would agree with everyone.
When i was a young girl some people would describe my mom as mentally ill or crazy.
Now I would say she was mentally unwell, certainly not crazy, but she was dysfunctional.

I think more people are using these terms publicly as people are learning in therapy the whys of this or that.
And learning to be open to new ways that are functional and balanced.
As of today I know of no other words to replace dysfunctional that does not carry it's own negative charge.

roseblossom, You are not your mother. And I wish you the best on your journey.
I suggest for now using a replacement word that is not so charged for you.
Like you can say, " my mom lacked the skills/balance to teach me."
I don't think the community here at pc would ever use the term dysfunctional in a hurtful way. Just kindly say you wish not to use that term.

One term that I am not so fond of is "triggering" because it is hardly used in a positive way. Now if I hear the word trigger, I think harmful, hurtful, danger. I understand the context as a warning. But there are good things that can trigger positive emotions
Happiedasiy works on being balanced everyday, HUGS