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Originally Posted by nicolerose
i see a lot of girls in every day life that reminds me of the girlfriends of the guys that i "love", for example, a girl with dark straight hair, or a blonde girl with dark eyebrows, which fits with a lot of people (not most people.. but still maybe i see someone like this once every day or every other day that really remind me about the girl). there are a lot of girls that are naturally beautiful, that remind me of the girl (who is also naturally beautiful), and i am not and it makes me very depressed.
im in my late 20's
i know about that girl that you linked to.
even if someone finds a feature about me cute or quirky, i am bothered, because he will find the other girl more attractive to me. i think that its impossible that someone will actually find me attractive but not the other girl, and i think if someone thought that, that there would be something wrong with him, and i dont even know if i would like someone who does NOT find the other blonde girl attractive because i will think that there is something wrong with him
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Your issue is real and you do not appear to be a victim of mass media. When you describe the blonde girls who are naturally pretty, I think you are indeed picking up on signs of genuine attractiveness. You can be a true blonde beauty without being a barbie doll - my bff used to be a true blonde beauty with natural dirty blonde hair - you know how naturally blonde hair is characterized by the fact that each hair is of a slightly different shade of blonde, which makes it so wonderful. So it seems to be that the girls you are talking about are not superficial but are genuinely pretty, and you acknowledge that. That said, the combination of blonde hair and dark eyebrows, while being classy, is rare (partially it is so classy precisely because it rarely occurs in nature). So there might be some make-up going on there.
I think your next step should be recognizing that a man can find both you and the blonde girl with dark eye brows attractive. Without ranking you guys are more and less attractive. Just find both attractive. Can you live with that or do you have to be the better one?