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Originally Posted by nicolerose
i see a lot of girls in every day life that reminds me of the girlfriends of the guys that i "love", for example, a girl with dark straight hair, or a blonde girl with dark eyebrows, which fits with a lot of people (not most people.. but still maybe i see someone like this once every day or every other day that really remind me about the girl). there are a lot of girls that are naturally beautiful, that remind me of the girl (who is also naturally beautiful), and i am not and it makes me very depressed.
im in my late 20's
i know about that girl that you linked to.
even if someone finds a feature about me cute or quirky, i am bothered, because he will find the other girl more attractive to me. i think that its impossible that someone will actually find me attractive but not the other girl, and i think if someone thought that, that there would be something wrong with him, and i dont even know if i would like someone who does NOT find the other blonde girl attractive because i will think that there is something wrong with him
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My point was that we are all naturally beautiful because we all have points about ourselves that are attractive - some more physically, others intellectually but most being a mixture of both. But what you need to remember is if that someone is in LOVE with you, then they will love only YOU - yes, other girls might appear attractive, some even more so than yourself but that's not an indication that your significant other will run off and demand their attentions instead. I think there's a difference between admiring and being attracted to someone. It's a fact of life that people in couples can admire other's for their looks without necessarily being attracted to them. This doesn't diminish their feelings for you or make them wish that you were different.
I'm 22 and i relate A LOT to how pressured you're probably feeling to look and act a certain way. The boundaries for what is normal have become so broad that the parameters for what is
acceptable have contracted. I think some sort of therapeutic environment would better help you cope with these feelings - you may have abandonment issues, BDD type tendencies who knows. We're not professionals here so we can't give you those answers but i would encourage you to keep posting and hopefully you'll find some support in the community here. All the best.