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Originally Posted by pureseeker
He gets mad at me when the baby wakes him up in the middle of the night and i cant even remember the last time he changed a diaper. Honestly, I cant even let him hold the baby because he will start screaming and my husband has no clue on how to calm him down. I'v e been waiting to see even how long it will take for my husband to take out the trash or realize the dishes need to be done...the trash can is overflowing and the kitchen is a disaster yet he still just comes home and sits on him phone until he shuts his eyes, then when he wakes up he doesnt roll over and kiss his son or me he checks his phone...
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You are wasting your money setting up counseling appointments. Your money would be better spent on mediation or lawyers.
If a man does not roll over to kiss his son when he wakes up, he is suffering from a very deep emotional deficit that counseling will not be able to address.
Babies have that innate capacity to draw out the best in their parents - it is an evolutionary trait that aids the survival of the species. So whether your husband wants to kiss the baby (on his own volition and INSTINCTIVELY and not because you or the counselor told him that babies thrive on being kissed by parents, or, if some sort of a book he reads informs him that babies need to be kissed, hugged, held, touched, etc.) is a
litmus test of what kind of a person he is, deep down. Since babies draw out the best from their parents (except for highly unusual cases), and, since your H does not kiss your son, his not kissing his son IS his best - he won't become better. The sooner you leave him, the better off you and your son will be.
6 weeks is long enough time to check whether he is capable of developing an attachment to his son on an instinctive level. He is not capable. He is therefore worthless. And, this is a much bigger problem than his talking to other women.