as for getting them in contact with one another, this T is seeing me despite her program policy not to "duplicate" services. When I asked if she wanted a release of info for my primary T, she said that it was not necessary, but that I should keep open dialogue. I'm hoping if she is going against company policy, she will talk to one of her supervisors and ok it all.
about the different definitions around dissociation, I was under the impression that most of the US used the same one, but I guess it's not accurate. I might ask her next week to help me understand her def. and to figure out why she is so adamant about changing my understanding of it.