Hi! Firstly, from what I have read about the origins of this family dispute, your SIL did not take your pregnancy/birth into consideration when making plans for her wedding and this is what started the whole ball rolling. Secondly, instead of being understanding and sympathetic about your predicament she chose to abuse you and to add further insult to injury she then involved other members of the family in order to divide and conquer. Thirdly, after your attempts to resolve your differences and move on, she has chosen to continue the feud and by doing this continue to hurt you. I don't think you want a SIL or family like this in your life in any case. Even if you were to resolve your differences over this there would undoubtedly be other problems in the future. The family sounds dysfunctional and even though it would be nice to have a cohesive, loving, forgiving family, their behavior has shown that they have little regard for the feelings of others and have acted poorly. Again, not the type of family you need in your life. As far as your DH is concerned this is his way of dealing with it and is more than likely a learned behavior and the way the whole family deals with things. As long as he is good to you and supportive and loving, this is the best you could ask for. You have to allow him to deal with it in the best way he can and knows how to and similarly be loving and supportive towards him. I would consider his loyalty to you commendable and take his silence and inability to stand up to his family as a positive attribute in one respect. If his other family members took the same approach then this problem would not exist. Dysfunctional families happen all the time. My H's family of 8 have been dysfunctional since I can remember with a couple of sisters not having spoken to each other for over one decade and a family divide. We choose to remain neutral, don't buy into arguments and keep minimal contact. It works well this way. Don't let this feud fester in your mind and affect your relationship. Focus on your family and teach your child through your words and actions how a family should act. All the best x