Over a year ago, I met a guy through friends. We liked one another and there was undeniable attraction. In the beginning he'd tease me about being his wife - which I thought was ridiculous, but fun. We planned trips with other couples we were friends with, and went several places together out of town. Of course we became sexually involved. We weren't exclusive. It was never said. But I knew I wasn't the only one. I'd see women "FB friends" who would flirt with him. He was pretty cool about it and never outwardly flirted back. However, the tone of the comments were flirtatious. I would use his actions as indicators that I was more important to him than the others. For instance, he introduced me to his sister. He stressed in the beginning of us getting to know one another, that he never brings any women around his family circle unless he's with them. We even exercised together and he would tag me on his FB page several times. I of course did the same. We've gotten closer as time has gone by and took a trip to Colorado. Which I thought meant he was serious about us. However, here's the problem: We went to Colorado for several days, just the two of us, bc he's moving there this year and looking for a job. We talked a little about having a long distance relationship. I knew from the beginning he planned on moving. I just never knew when and he wasn't sure either. This leaves me very confused. Why would he be moving but acting as if we are exclusive/serious? He is also very attached to his phone. Which made me leary. So I checked it one day. I found several text conversations he's had with other women. But one in particular stands out from the rest. He had her labeled in his contacts as, "her name + gorgeous" for example "Alexia Gorgeous". They are friends on FB and he's known her longer than me. I'm not jealous, but I know they've dated in the past and are now friends. The texts were a mixture of him telling her how much he missed her sexy lips, her needing him and conversations about him inquiring if she was doing alright after a death in her family - things suggesting he cared for her and she for him. In another text he also stated that not only would they stay in contact. But she could come visit and stay with him at his new residence. Huh? One that bothered me even more was him telling her how much he liked to have multiple partners in one day. That he likes variety and has many to choose from. He also said he can't get enough sex which is the reason he wants multiple partners. He did say that only one he had implied exclusivity. But that he never really told her in words. He didn't want to go down that road because he was moving in a few weeks. He also texted that not everybody needs to know he screws everybody and they shouldn't. He didn't want to hurt anyone or be hated. I figured he must have been talking about me. He had no problem showing his true self to her and being honest. Why hasn't he been honest with me? I'm in shock, confused and hurt. I don't know if their relationship is just sexual or something more. What is going on? Why would he act as if it was just him and me if we weren't? Then I question myself whether I should be upset or not. Since we never did say in words that we were exclusive. Help!