When I did EMDR with my T I couldn't handle him being too close...at all. I would become so anxious because he was in my space and then the tapping made me so uncomfortable. I just wasn't able to tolerate a male in my space, touching me while I was discussing traumatic things. So he switched to having me follow his finger with my eyes instead. This was better but still was within my space. So he ended up getting a big stylus sort of thing that I was able to follow with my eyes while he stayed further away from me. It took a bit of trail and error before we found a method that worked for us and that wasn't too distressing.