I see my younger brother once a year or so. We bonded more during the illness and passing of our mother two years ago. He lives far away but came to visit our father, and I happened to be there. During a conversation I mentioned something that had happened during childhood. Not really a bad thing, but quirky, unusual. He began a diatribe about how every time he visits I have to bring up negative events from our childhood, that I feel we were abused emotionally and even physically, that I talk about it a lot with people outside the family, that I have a real problem because I have invented this supposed abuse and can't stop obsessing about it. I was stunned and just listened in shock. He left the next day. I was so confused that I talked to a former counselor of mine and she confirmed that his statement are not true, that I don't believe I was abused, that I don't obsess about it, that I generally felt I had a happy, loving home as a child. I had so much going on in my life, after talking to her I just put his statements away. Now we are three weeks away from his son's wedding, and I was invited (which surprised me after what he had said). I find I am anxious and worried about seeing him again, and also about his perception of me that way, and why he would have talked to me in that way when we aren't close, he doesn't really know me, we never talk or even email unless it's about our father's health issues. I've been writing down how I feel about it. My question is this: should I bring it up with him before the wedding? Or just go on as if it never happened?