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Jul 10, 2013, 05:56 PM
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Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Mid World
Posts: 18,103
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Originally Posted by bos314489
I recently lost my husband in a terrible accident 2 weeks ago. I have been devestated and severly depressed. I have been off work for 2 weeks. I know that it is important to stay busy and work but I found myself unable to concentrate and too emotional and my job requires intense concentration. I am staying busy in other ways working in my garden, mowing the grass, taking care of my dog, walking on the beach, cleaning house, etc. I actually feel busier than when I was working. I have an option to go on a leave of absence until I am ready to come back. I just want to know if other people have had a loss of a loved one and had to take a leave of absense from work and how long before you were able to work again? Thanks
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Bos, my husband was killed on the job one night I was halfway thorugh gradute school when it happened. Classes started two weeks after he was killed. I returned to class, but a reduce classload (2 classes instead of 3). I needed the structure of having to get up and go to class every day or I would have vanished into my grief and depression. I also very much understand the feeling of wanting to live the life you want before it's over. Life can end with no warning.
Some practical things to consider...
Can you afford to go on a leave of absence? How long can you survive financially withour a paycheck? Or do you have some paid time off coming to you?
Could you return to work on a reduced schedule? Maybe work half days or only a few days a week while you sort out what you want to do.
You mention wanting to sell your art. Are you in a financial position to be able to support yourself while you get that business going?
What about taking some leave to give yourself some breathing room to sort out what you want to do next? Some people might tell you not to make any important decisions for one year. That's a load of hogwash. Some time practicalities don't let us wait that long. Listen to both your heart and your gut. Ask people who know you for feedback on whether you are making logical choices.
Someone else mentioned a grief support group. They can be a big help.
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