hi phillygirl, i dont think i have met you properly yet, so hi, nice to meet you. and welcome to PC.

yea i am the same, i never ask for anythign in return. maybe thats where we go wrong, who knows. ive always been the type of character tyo just get on with things and only rely on myself for support, yet i always tell others they can rely on me anytime they need to. but i am different these days since i found PC, i ask for help whenever i need it now which is definately good, and i am a stronger person for sure. but the reason it hurt me this time is because i had alot of feelings involved, i cared alot for julie, liked her alot. i thought she liked me back so i began to progress. if she had been cold with me from the start i wouldnt have carried on with her, but she didnt. thats what hurt. she just wanted attention and care that i was showing her, and as soon as it was my last day at work, she chucked me.

i think sometimes most people dont realise that other people hurt too. they just think its acceptable to rely on one person and only turn to them when needs be, not when they just felt like calling for a chat about anything. but when we make it clear that we dont want support, how do they know we need it, afterall, we need to show we need help in order to recieve it, right?

caring people such as ourselves are prone to be hurt in life, its part of the job description i think.i seriously dont think it will ever change me, as i will always be the same.

im sorry you had to deal with that phillygirl, that must have been so hard, the same goes to you sammi. i feel for you, i really do.

simon