I think you need to relax, stop planning so much, and just go meet her and then play it by ear. You are posting a second - and almost identical - post about it, so this is bothering you a lot.

You need to realize that she is an adult woman who makes her own decisions. If she wants to meet you, she must be at least on some level interested. Do not second-guess her choices. You are being very inconsistent, in that you, on the one hand, are afraid that she would be babysitting you, and yet, you are, in essence, trying to babysit HER by making the decision on whether to meet you for her.

It is much better to have adult-to-adult relationships, in which neither party babysits the other. To have an adult-to-adult relationship, you do not need to be the same age at all, but you should know about boundaries. By second-guessing and doubting HER choices, you are overstepping personal boundaries.