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realistically, she is more likely to find somebody new sooner or later than Illegal Toilet is. So she is more likely to be the one to call it quits, sexually.

If she decides to end it sexually, then Illegal Toilet, on top of the sad fact that he is 34 and yet has only had one gf, and, on top of the sad fact that the first and so far only gf ended the relationship (whatever she meant by the word "relationship") on her initiative and against his wishes (IT wrote that she was a good one so he himself did not want to end it), will feel the pain of ultimate rejection. It would be the second rejection in a row - first she rejected him by opting out of having a relationship with him (and, stopping to react to being suckled on), and then, and finally, she would reject him sexually by opting out of having any kind of sex with him, however mechanical.

I am not sure he is really up to the challenge of suffering from the ultimate rejection at this point (sorry for analyzing, IT, but you come across as being pretty sensitive, and that need to suckle in a non-sexual way that you report, given that it free-associates with your being a baby, underscores that you are coming across as pretty sensitive; that you are not financially independent is another thing that free-associates with your being a child who depends on parents, which, again, makes you more sensitive than an average male in your age group).

So my recommendation, to avoid hurt feelings, is to engage a prostitute, masturbate, or do whatever it takes to stop seeing this particular woman, thereby heading off doom.