Thanks to all of you so much. I agree generally as well with your consensus. However the contrast between her couch potato out by 8 when on Abilify behavior and this is stark enough for me to know there is an at least hypomanic element contributing to her getting off the couch and actually leaving the house, in search of "fun". She's always been a rapid cycler from what I've noted through the years....I honestly do think the "urge" to go to bars etc is related to BP. However, all that has followed is not, I agree. Now...what to do...because no, I can't and won't live like this, and yes I know it could happen again given her conditions and habits...not sure how to get someone I'm not really speaking to and am none too happy with who is in denial to a certain extent into the hospital setting I agree she needs....her shrinks thus far have sucked, in my opinion...she BSs them though to be fair, so who knows how much real and useful info they get upon which to base their dxs and write their rxs. Ugh. Yes, I'm exhausted. It's kind of not my problem anymore....though I guess the other person is gone now...all of it denied despite real evidence...don't know. Family members in denial too...I find it hard to believe that it will fall to me to get her in the hospital for a prober eval and detox? Ugh!!! After the past four months I'm not terribly excited by the prospect.... I want her to be better of course but don't see how I should be the one to try to make it happen anymore...since I am, as ever, Exhausted!!!!!