Retreat and recover, your no help when your exhausted. Then after you recover decide whether you want this relationship to continue. If you do, you need to get her to a pdoc and convince her to let you go in to intake so you can gently call the BS (she says no you can "say" but what about when xyz happened?, does this count?,) My pdoc told me a very important thing anyone can give pdoc's information about a client but the pdoc can't even say if the client is his patent. I use this info., and my friend's / family use this info when concerned.