Wow, what a horrible predicament. I understand, I've lived through it but there are no easy answers. The first think I would do is some serious soul searching. Find out why you feel this way. What in your opinion would be an acceptable amount of time with his parents? Is that a realistic and logical number?

One the one hand he is your husband and he's built his own family with you. And if he's neglecting your household then it certainly needs to be addressed. One the other hand, he has one mother and one father. He could have a dozen wives in his life time.

I know it's not easy. Ideally you'd figure out a way at least tolerate the time you spend with them. But after 30 years, even the mention of my FILs name irritates me. We finally had to move out of the area. When the company my husband was working for announced it was going out of business my FIL insisted my husband come back and work for him. NO WAY, that meant being on call 24 hours a day, without even the benefit of being paid for the extra work. My FIL wouldn't even bother to call. He would walk into our house, into our bedroom at all hours of the day/night because of some emergency call. He needed help, wasn't willing to pay someone the after hours fees so hubby was his answer. It didn't matter that he woke up all four kids to do it. My husband would get up (even if he'd just gotten off of work) and go help his father and leave me with four crying children to top it off. So I do understand your frustration. BUT my husband's dedication to his family is one of the things that I find most attractive about him.

And as a parent I must say how much time is too much with your children? That number does not exist for me. I am grateful that my youngest son's wife understands this. While I understand that they must have their own life, life is short and there is never enough time.

Out of curiosity, what does your husband say about all of this?