Rose I hope you continue with your epiphany! Your BF lied to you and either you forgive or you move on. Either you accept that he's a package deal or you move on. Ultimately YOU decide how it's going to go, but if you choose to stay you're aware that there are compromises that you are going to have to make. We are adults, this is how life is.

I am curious though. Why doesn't your BF take vacation for the time his child is here? If he has only 10 days to spend with his child, why isn't he making sure he has it to spend with his child? He has 355 days to prepare for the 10 his kid is here. I'm stumped. My son's leave was changed this past Christmas and we were horribly upset. It was changed at the last minute so I had to work 3 of the 14 days he was here and hubby had to work 5. I don't understand why he isn't savoring every second.

I don't mean to be harsh, and I'm sure he has some redeeming qualities, but he sounds like a selfish horses @ss.