The thing I point out to my children (trying very hard to break that cycle) is that just because you don't drink all the time, doesn't mean you don't have a problem. Occasional, even rare binge drinking, to the point of black outs or passing out are causes for alarm.

Some people think that I'm super sensitive on this topic and I may be. But these lessons were learned the hard way and I would much rather not have my children repeat the mistakes of hubby and my parents (along with scores of Aunt, Uncles, and cousins). My father was successful in defeating alcohol, but I abstain because I don't know that I would be able to quit.

Good luck with your conversation tomorrow. I hope that this has opened you're husband's eyes.