I'm sorry that you feel offended by their suggestion, but I'm going to jump in and share why I think they're good little suggestions. Keep in mind, I highly dislike a lot about my own body and have been working at it for years.

Changing the superficial things, that CAN be changed? I change my hair colour quite often. It is is a quick and easy fix. And you know what? When I like my hair more, I find that I like the rest of me more. When my hair is a colour of my choosing - well, it lets me see that my the shape of my face is actually nice. It's helped me like my skin tone - because you know, I can pull of pretty much any colour of hair! I never knew that until I tried dying it all sorts of different colours. When I get my teeth whitened, it makes me happier to smile and I don't feel as self-conscious of it - which makes me feel more confident.

I can actually wear skirts and dresses now - albeit with tights on, because I do still have issues with how my legs look - I feel I have huge calfs and my legs are INSANELY pale. But I can actually walk around and have them showing and not actually feel bad about it - with the help of tights.

I think they were good suggestions because you have got a huge list of things about yourself that trouble you. If you give a temp fix to the things that you can.. it can help you see the rest of you in a different manner, or at least make your list of disliked features smaller and less overwhelming.

Like... I actually went to my normal hair colour about a year ago. Just to see. It didn't bother me at all, and I still liked those features of myself that I used to highly dislike. Since then I've dyed my hair again, but it's because I enjoy doing it. No one else thinks I need to - it's purely to suit my own aesthetics.

Aside from changing your teeth and your hair, the rest would require surgery and/or a LOT of both physical and psychological work to change. And I don't know about you, but I do NOT want to ever get plastic surgery because I want to ultimately be me! And I sort of want to like me as me before really working on getting fit.

I also find that the way I dress affects what I think of the rest of me. When I was younger I wanted to hide in my clothes, or was somewhat boxed in due to my family's limitations. I hated my body and I certainly showed it to everyone. As superficial as it sounds - I pay more attention to what I wear, and certain clothes make me like my body's shape more. Some clothes show off parts of me and helps minimize the look of others. Does it seem shallow? Sure. But I also find it shallow of myself to dislike anything about my own appearance.

Basically.. if you hate so much of your body, you need to find some way or another to see yourself in a new light. For me, it was dying my hair, putting on make up (speaking off, I'm perfectly content to run out the door in joggers, no makeup, and my hair all wild - and NOT feel miserable! YAY PROGRESS!!!), and wearing clothes that suit my body. For you? I don't know, I'm not you.