Thanks. For me I think it is that I am philosophically opposed to marriage but not funerals. I do not think death is the worst thing that can happen to a person. I don't think marriage is the worst thing either, just that it is none of my business nor do I care whether two people are married or not.
I understand the desire to grieve and to want/need support in that grief and how it can be communal situation. And although I understand some of the historical purposes for celebrating a marriage I think they no longer apply and I find I disagree with the idea of it being a reason for communal celebration. I understand why someone might want others to join in grieving their loss. I have no idea why anyone cares one way or the other about the fact two people got married, even when I like the people getting married, their status as becoming married as something to celebrate is perplexing to me.