RTS - I don't think you are silly, and I am definitely in the minority. I think what you describe is way too personal to involve others, and I do not think personal commitment should involve a public act. I think most wedding vows, particularly when written by each person, are simply too personal for me to want to hear. It is none of my business. And I don't understand why someone would want me to hear them say it to their partner. And most vows are just awful for me to endure listening to, both in sentiment and in delivery.