He sees the kiddo a week in the summer and 3 days at Christmas.
He is an artist (and actually makes money doing it), so he works from home. His plan is going to be: Work on stuff for clients from 7-2 then have the afternoon to do what I have planned to do. He WAS going to work ALL day (9-6) and then just hang out at night. I reminded him that my babysitting fees were incredibly high, so he cut back his hours. Then I asked him what he was going to do while the kiddo was here, and he said, "I don't know. I know he wants to go to the zoo, but other than that, just hang out." I made a schedule of events to enjoy each other's time:

Monday- Science and History Museum (I am a member due to teaching.)
Tuesday- Wax Museum, oddities museum, lasar maze, and hall of mirrors
Wednesday - Zoo
Thursday- Nature walk and make a salad from what we find
Friday- Asian market (THAT is an experience..) and family cooking night (razor clams from Asian market and fresh Jack Fruit.)
Saturday- Farmers Market, Breakfast, and take kiddo home.

Don't have too high of an opinion of me, this is pretty much driven from a place of selfishness in that I don't want to be stuck in an apartment all day with him for a week. If I am out and about, then I have air and feel like I can breathe.

The background on the kiddo:

He was a mistake. The bf and ex were young, and she got pregnant. She chose to keep the kiddo, as is her right. He didn't want the kid. They tried to date after he found out she was pregnant, but it just didn't work out. They were always on again, off again. He was a part of the kids life because his mother wanted grand kids and because he was already paying child support, so he should see the kiddo. He saw him every other weekend until the kiddo was 3, then he moved here because he could make more money here and there was a bigger art industry here. (He's from a small town.) Now he sees him ten days a year. He's also considered signing away his parental right because he doesn't feel like he's his kiddo in a lot of ways, and is just making the best of a bad situation. Please don't confuse my recounting of facts as I know them to be condoning his actions or defending him. I am merely telling you the history with the kiddo.

I hate telling this story. I am having to fight hard to stay out of a bad place.
I hate that he dated her and had a kid with her. I hate that the kiddo is treated like a mistake. ( I was a mistake too, and know how that feels.) I hate that he didn't tell me up front. (With the exception of the first "hate", I feel like these are valid concerns.)

The kiddo gets here tomorrow, and I don't think the house is clean enough, so I am going to go clean. (AKA control the aspects I CAN control...) Also, I have to bake a cake (boyfriend's birthday..he's getting a chocolate and vanilla checkerboard cake with chocolate butter cream and molded candies on the top...aka nervous cooking), and make mini quiches and breakfast corn dogs for breakfast this weekend while his family is here. (More nervous cooking.)

Oh, and on another note, since my anxiety is leaving me a bit nauseous, I have lost 5 pound toward my goal of losing twenty by October. I am calling that a "bright side".